There’s been many times I’ve given up on myself because life just got hard and I think to myself what’s the point? I got comfortable in that mindset, but in actuality it was the loneliest place to be when you see others moving forward at a pace of the speed of light and you are just sitting there wondering what’s wrong with me?! I have learned it’s all up to me. If I want to be that lonely person sitting there wondering why then that’s where I will be. But I realized when I take responsibility for what happens to me then that’s when I started to fly.
You see it’s all about your thoughts. If you decide when life gets tough and your going to give up well… your not going to go very far with your dreams. But if you have a grateful, positive attitude, then you’ll go far. I was told that you can have a big dream in life, something that you truly want to achieve, but the most important thing of the whole journey isn’t about getting there but who you become along the way.
I have dreams and to be honest I was that person that would wonder why things seemed to go so slow for me and feel like I wasn’t going anywhere. I look at it now that it was a way for me to take a closer look at myself in the mirror and see who I truly am and what my purpose is. I may not be where I thought I would be, but I’m certainly a different person than I was a year ago. I was quiet, timid, and afraid to show up as who I really was because what others would think your maybe I wasn’t good enough BUT I wanted to go after my dreams and it has required me to get out there and do hard things if I wanted to get to my dreams. Being vulnerable and showing up everyday is hard but I believe in the process. Writing this blog post makes me wonder how many people will actually read it, but the truth is, its my journey of how I am becoming each day. If one person reads this and helps them, then my heart is happy.
Times will get tough and you will fail but look at it as a blessing that it’s getting you one step closer to your dream so keep going! What’s the worst that can happen your still in the same place but maybe you learn a thing or two along the way or become a completely different person. I hated the word fail because it made me think in a bad way that I wasn’t good enough. But failure is part of the process and being grateful for set backs because failure is getting you on the right path. Look at failure as a friend not as an enemy!
How can you keep believing in your dreams even when life gets tough?
- Take responsibility of yourself and own it. Blaming others for where you are at isn’t going to get you anywhere. Just simple own those things and take responsibility to move you forward. This includes your thoughts too! Stay positive.
- Know that your changing along the way. Even though it may seem you are going no where, I promise you are so you keep going and moving forward. There are changes happening.
- Understand that failure is all apart of achieving your dreams because failure makes you stronger and realize what you can do better. Failure is your friend!
Keep believing in yourself and your dream you have set for yourself. I know it can be easier to set that dream aside when things get tough, but that’s when you need your dream more to fuel your fire to keep going.
This past weekend I had an opportunity to attend my first military graduation. I had no idea what to expect from it. All I knew I was going to support and cheer on my little brother. I didn’t know much about the military really, just that they are brave to put their life on the line for this country. But I had a huge realization as I hugged my brother in tears after he had graduated, that this moment was more powerful than I would have ever imagined that I was hugging more than just my brother, I was hugging a hero. A hero the would leave a small impact in in his sisters heart.
It’s all about the breaking point. That moment that breaks you down to the point you realize you have two choices… to break through and face your fears or to keep going to down the path of no return.
The men and women who graduated alongside my brother chose to face their fears and to keep going. Imagine being stripped of your identity, with a shaved head, being yelled at because a shirt wasn’t folded properly so you have to fold that same shirt the whole entire day over and over again. Imagine being locked in a small gas chamber with several other people where you are held for a moment to experience what it is like to have tear gas on you.
Sometimes we have to break to bring ourselves up doesn’t mean we are broken, but we have to fave tough challenges in our lives to bring ourself up from where we were. That is the one powerful thing I took away from this experience. We have challenges in our life that seem hard to get through but through these moments its the choices we make to either allow it to break us more or to allow it as an opportunity to grow and to strengthen us.
I asked Luke (my brother), what was the number one thing he took from his time from boot camp and he told me that No matter how hard you get hit, there’s a way to come back. Before he left for boot camp, he told me he was nervous about running. He had been working on it but still wasn’t there yet. His first runs at boot camp weren’t up to standards. He had to complete a final run to make the pass to graduate. He shaved 4 minutes off his time! He told us stories of how he got sick and they pushed him back in ranks because of it. But the lesson was that you will always come back from being hit hard because you find the determination to work even harder to get you even further.
Our moments of weakness are the most valuable moments of our lives. They are the moments we have to strengthen to push you further than you ever gone before. Being brought down then brought up shows you the possibilities of what can be.
Even though you may not have endured as much as military bootcamp puts you through, we all face challenges that will bring us down. We are 100% responsible for our own life and how we endure through the hard things. we can allow them to bring us down or bring us up, the choice is yours to make.
I recall a time when I felt down like I had no other way out and I din’t know how to get out so I played the victim. I allowed myself to be the victim that everyone else was to blame for the pain I was feeling, my parents, my husband, you get it. It was such a lonely road to go down. When I knew I couldn’t go any further feeling like I did, I took control. I sought help. I educated myself on the things that I knew that would help. I read books. Took courses, but most of all took responsibility. I didn’t have a military person yell at me, but I had the voice inside my head telling me I needed to change.
If you feel that you are broken right now in life, your aren’t broken, know that you can face the challenge your facing as an opportunity to bring yourself back up and take responsibilty for the life you have been given! There you will find true joy and happiness.