I think we can agree as mothers especially when you have more than one child, it is easy to let ourselves down and allow ourselves to get overwhelmed and anxious. I knew I wanted to have more than one child because it made sense that they have a sibling to hang out with, but I never imagined how challenging it could be. You just learn to put your mama pants on and just do it.
I invited one of my good mama friends, Amanda, on the blog today to share her journey in motherhood. She recently had twins and has Addy her sweet little toddler and boy she inspires me with how she handles three under three with grace. I took these photos with them and she admired me so much with her grace and love with her children during the session. I am so excited to share her thoughts and tips with you today!
Hi loves! I’m Amanda, mama to a sweet two year old toddler and nine month old boy/girl twins! You can find me on Instagram over on my motherhood page, @three.darling.littles. I couldn’t be more honored to be a guest on Ambers blog today and it means even more to me that she asked me to share tips on motherhood/being a mama of multiples for such a special holiday, Mother’s Day! This day means so much to me for so many reasons and I see it as a chance to celebrate and praise all of you incredible mamas out there, you’re not celebrated enough!
First off… Guys… motherhood is HARD! I have learned and continue to learn so much about myself through this journey and there has been a lot of growth in all aspects of my life since becoming a mama. By no means am I an expert on motherhood but through my journey I have learned, grown, loved, cried (like a lot), triumphed, prevailed, failed and trusted. Trusted this journey, trusted myself, trusted my partner, trusted my children, trusted the unknown… being a parent truly is the hardest and most rewarding job there is out there. Long days, tired nights, kissing boo boos, feeding babies, being teachers, friends, wives, running a household, being the glue that holds it all together and safe place to land for these sweet little babies. It’s a job that never ends but a job that comes with so much reward and LOVE!
Being a mom in this day in age can be so intimidating and scary! Not only do we have the pressure of society, but we also live in the age of social media where the perfect super mom image is blasted everywhere! Suddenly becoming a new mom has so much added pressure! Research, books, classes, blogs there is information literally everywhere! So much so that it can be overwhelming at times! I know it certainly was for me!
I wish I could write you a perfectly scripted manual with tips on the perfect way to Mom… the truth is, I don’t believe there is one! There are so many different and right ways to Mom and through each of our individual journeys, we find what works for us. Some of the things that I have learned that have helped me overcome and that I hope can help someone else do the same are these…
Comparison! The icky C word. As much as we try not to, we all do it. Comparison truly is the thief of joy! Our journeys, our children, us as moms, our homes, our marriage… they are all different! If you’re constantly comparing your journey to that of someone else you will never find joy through your own! This has been my biggest area of growth throughout these last few years. Trust me it has taken work! Just remember mamas that you are exactly the person these children need you to be and there is no one better for them then you! trust your journey because it is yours and yours alone!
Celebrate your wins! As little as they are, celebrating your wins can make a world of difference! It’s important to recognize that everything you’re doing is all for a purpose and if you’re constantly focusing on everything you haven’t done as opposed to all the things you’ve already done and accomplished, there will always be that feeling of not doing/being enough. You are keeping humans alive! You are doing THE most important job there is, that in itself is the biggest win! On the days you only get a few things done, still see those things as a win! On the days you do surprise yourself and get your entire to do list done, PRAISE yourself even louder, you deserve it mama!
Me time! Me time is one of the most important ways to reset for me. Us mamas wear so many hats and we’re constantly pouring from our own cups to fill the cups of others. If we don’t stop to refill our own cup, our cups run dry and there’s nothing left to give! Focusing even just fifteen minutes a day for yourself is so important. Drink your coffee hot, have a shower, workout, read a book eat your lunch in peace! Do something for you that will help you reset and recharge! I promise a reset makes the world of difference!
Find your tribe! There is so much community in motherhood mamas, I promise, you are not alone! Reach out to someone going through something similar even if it’s on social media! You would be surprised by the outcome of reaching out to someone with a similar journey! Find a tribe that loves you, supports you, lifts you up when you rise, catches you when you fall, encourages you and motivates you to be the best version of yourself. My tribe keeps me level and recharged on my hardest days and our mission together is to always make each other and other mamas know that YOU are not alone!
To all of you beautiful mamas don’t ever forget that you are STRONG, you are CAPABLE, you are a WARRIOR, you are RESILIENT, you are AMAZING and you are EXACTLY the mama you need to be for these babies! Trust your journey, give yourself SO much grace and remember that you are not alone! Let’s celebrate ourselves and each other and create a unite in motherhood so strong that it will start to move mountains!
By sharing motivating, empowering motherhood, I know we can all change how the world sees motherhood and I hope the expectations for perfection start to subside because there is so much beauty in imperfection… there is so much beauty in motherhood! I’m always here if you ever want to reach out or be heard mamas, and I would love to hear your stories! Happy Mother’s Day to all of you amazing mamas out there! I see you and am rooting for you all!!
Thank you Amanda for these tips and sharing your motherhood heart and journey today!
PS Mother’s Day is fast approaching! Give the gift of memories to that special mama in your life. Gift Certificates are available for any photo session. Contact me to order a gift for the special mama in your life!